impressions

Our church is doing a series on technology. Technology is not good or bad, but it’s not neutral. This Sunday’s lesson was given by a local professor who speaks my language of story, prop, and children’s literature. These were my notes… my impressions… on a coffee cup.

Monday8

You could say there are 4 levels of relationships:

public (you know their names, but they don’t know yours)

social (acquaintances- you know each other’s names)

personal (close friends)

intimate (means ‘without a mask;’ unconditional and few)

Monday2

God’s capacity for relationships in infinite. Our capacity for relationships is finite. Having too many or too few relationships… or stressing relationships into the wrong category/priority moves us into physical unhealthy-ness.

Health is not simply an issue of genes, diet, and exercise [example given here from Gladwell’s book, Outliers: Rosetta, PA and their strange absence of heart disease which has been decided is a result of the town living in healthy community; loved this book, BTW.]

Community and relationships matter. They make you healthy and they make you sick. It’s all about finding the balance.

Monday5

Crazy revelation for Kate, as indicated by the poor grammar in her original note: we can have relationships with people… but we can have relationships of varying levels with THINGS as well. Specifically, in this case, we’re talking about the internet, our phone, our Kindle, our laptop, our TV, our GPS: technology.

Monday6

A significant relationship leaves an impression. Even a public relationship can be significant in your life. I grew up immersed in the world of rock and roll. Lyrics. Album notes and backstories. Fleetwood Mac and I have a public relationship… they do not know me. But, their music made a serious impression on me as a child and a lover of story through song. The same could be said for many authors and athletes in my life. Community, on any level, is necessary to be healthy.

Monday3

What’s the draw to social media? Conversations- real conversations- happen in real time and cannot be edited. Social media allows us to connect without conversation. We share photos intending for this to equal sharing our life, but often it just cuts short the conversation. You can find community online and you can build relations online, but not at the expense of conversation. If you lose the conversation- the physical community- you will make yourself sick. THIS VIDEO is remarkable. The graphics, the message, everything.

Monday4

The initial pain of sin (which is generally felt as shame, guilt, anxiety, etc.) is often diffused with technology. Instead of sitting through and working through the uncomfortable, we reach for diversion. Instead of going face-to-face, heart-to-heart, I chose to put a fence between myself and another for supposed safety. This makes us- this makes me– unhealthy. Like, it can actually contribute to me being physically sick.

Am I trading conversation for connection?

Am I working too hard to make some relationships personal when they are better left social? Are there enough people who know me and love me unconditionally, or do I hide that to protect myself.

Do I reach for diversion when I am uncomfortable?

Big questions. Amazing questions.

“It is not often that someone comes along who is a true friend and a good writer. Charlotte was both.” – E.B. White in Charlotte’s Web

She was honest, a friend, a worker. She was the very definition of healthy community. Surrounding someone, using your gifts, and building them up.

I want to be like Charlotte.

I do not want to be so afraid of community that protecting myself comes at the expense of significant relationships.

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9 responses to “impressions

  • Missy

    Awesome and big questions, indeed. Oh my friend, this is at the crux of all of our striving in the now, isn’t it? This is sparking a tumble of thoughts in my head. Praying we face-to-face more and diffuse less; encourage more and grab a platform less. Thoughts, lots of thoughts about this. Thank you for this – it’s going into the “To Be Read Again” folder.

  • Amy B.

    This is a tangential thought, but of late I’ve wondered if Christians (or anyone trying to taking a moral stand) would trade out the word “immoral” for “unhealthy” would they be met with more receptiveness in their intended audience. “Immoral” carries judgment, but “unhealthy” carries a real concern for the mental and physical well-being of someone. Just a thought…

    • texasnorth

      Ooooh, interesting thought Amy! I think I agree with you!

      📎 sent from TexasNorth

      • Amy B.

        Because if you think about some of the limitations set (or I guess recommended) by God in the Bible, a lot of them seemed to be related to health at some (often very practical) level (thinking prohibition of pork to Jews all the way to promiscuous sex).

        • Kim Aguilar

          Yes, and finding common ground is critical for understanding when people come at belief from different angles. But for those of us who know better (have an understanding of what is required of us in the way of repentance), and have testimonies of Christ, don’t you think substituting “unhealthy” for “immoral” could cause the opposite effect?

  • Mandi Watts

    Thanks for sharing this. I have just been owning up to some of these ideas in my life and have been realizing my need for (though not necessarily my desire for) community. I’m trying to push myself to seek out conversations and not just connections. And I’m trying to be ok with the real, unedited version of myself that requires.

  • Diesel

    It was an amazing presentation and we followed up with some practical ways to challenge our kids (cf iparented.com). Thanks for the capture!

  • Kim Aguilar

    “The initial pain of sin (which is generally felt as shame, guilt, anxiety, etc.) is often diffused with technology. Instead of sitting through and working through the uncomfortable, we reach for diversion.”

    YES. YES. YES. YES. YES.

    Healthy people work through the pain, of sin, of anything. Unhealthy people shield themselves from the pain with something else…drugs, alcohol, porn, food, technology, etc.

    I hate that I’m guilty.

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